Lonely... But Happy; How?


            Have you ever felt lonely at a point in your life?  

Some experience this every time they are left alone, while others like me, at night as a result of negative memories, leading to frustration. 

Now, let's discuss how you can utilize this SPECIAL MOMENT in your life... It is a special moment because, some never gets the privilege to find themselves as they keep losing themselves, due to the life style, or the nature of the job they do.

           People think being alone makes you a LONELY being, But I don't think that’s true. Being surrounded by wrong people is the loneliest thing in the World

           You can be happy even when alone, because your contentment comes from inside of you. Your self-worth is not dependent upon any external stimuli. 

So don't be afraid to spend some time alone, unplugged from the phones, TV etc, stop distracting yourself from yourself, this is the only way to slow down and actually observe the patterns and beliefs you holds.  

Sometimes things don't always turn out the way you planned it, or the way you think they should. 

And as hard as we try, there are things that go wrong that don't always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before.
           Personally, I don’t like being lonely, but love being alone (Does that make sense?).

           So how can you be happy when alone and when you feel lonely?


Time To Bring Back
Your Happy Memories

           Take this moment to remember the happy days you’ve had in the past and imagine the better days ahead. 

There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it, and surround yourself with materials or people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. 

Ask yourself: “What do I like doing?
Maybe you enjoy playing an instrument. Why don’t you play one just to accompany yourself for the moment? 

Yes; any hobby that makes you feel good is worth doing at the moment. (If you ask me what I do when I’m alone, of course I would be drawing, typing some write-ups and reading… and some little time on gaming! for short). 
Do you have kids? If yes, then you could spend the apple time playing with your kids!
And they will love you for it, and never forget that moment!


Time to Focus

           So we say; we think we want one thing, we say we want another and do completely different thing, which comes with a different result. Why? 

Because wHERE yOUR tHOUGHTS gO, yOU gO. It would be difficult for you to be focus if your thoughts are not balance, just like the wave of the sea.
There could be no other better time than when you are alone; the time when your thoughts start rearranging themselves. 

Now, when alone, I view it as a rare opportunity to tell, and remind myself of my last agenda or my temporally organized plan for matters to be attended to; the steps I have planned to take to make it a success. 

All this require concentration and focus; you see, my friend. Always use your rare opportunity, when you are privileged to be alone to remind yourself your last agenda or your temporally organized plan for matters to be attended to; the steps you have planned to take to make it a success.


 A Broken Friendship

           I hear a friend telling her partner: “…treat me like a joke and I'll leave you like it's funny”.
Over the years, I've learned that some broken things stay broken, and I've learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people who love you.
When someone walks out of your life (even though you tried your best), let them. There's no use in wasting your time (feelings, headache, and worries) on people that leave you. 

What you make of yourself and your future is no longer tied to them. Yeah, you may miss them. But remember that you weren't the one that gave up. 

Let’s be frank and honest; you don’t need their negative attitude and feedback. Now you can focus, at the quietness of the moment. 
You could Learn something new, You know, you're so smart and creative but most of the time you believe you aren't. 

Why don’t you spend some time doing what you like every day. Yes. Do something good for yourself.


Be Grateful

           Granted, you may be sad and tired or even lonely sometimes. 

But if you remember that you’re still breathing, it's an advantage that will surely put a smile on your face. A sign of better things to come in the future. 

As the saying goes:"When there is LIFE, there is HOPE. Sometimes you have to erase the messages, delete the numbers, and move on. 
You don't have to forget who that person was to you, but you do have to accept that they aren't that person anymore. 

You are (or should be) your best friend, get to know yourself, go for a walk, in the woods, observe your thoughts, be with yourself.
Meditate daily, at least for 10 minutes.
We have to accept who we are, spend some time with ourselves, to find the great truth within — that we can be alone, that we do not need another person to make us feel whole. 

We are not needy, rather, we're giving and loving.

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